Easy Dream Weddings

Hey, sounds fine with me. If a close friend did that, and I could arrange the time off and afford the trip, I’d make a vacation out of it. You know….be there for the wedding, and then spend a week with my family doing our own thing.

As long you don’t pressure people to go, or do get upset of they can’t make it…don’t worry. Depending on how much notice you give, and where it’s at, you may or may ot get takers. It may also help if you indicate that a gift is not necessary, since you know they’re traveling to your wedding destination.

They are not rude. Just make sure your friends and family know that you understand if it is not “well-attended”. You’re the bride, baby! It’s YOUR day! Do what you want. Just do your best to assuage the guilt of those who feel they should be there but can’t make it due to finances, scheduling time off from work etc.

maybe its because they can’t afford the trip and they would like to be at your wedding? just a thought

I don’t think it IS rude at all. Personally, I like the idea, just have never had the opportunity to have or attend one. I wouldn’t worry about what people on here say too much, there are some teenagers who are out on spring break who have too little to do to keep them busy. As long as you’re being considerate of your guests, and it certainly sounds as if you are, then you’re fine. There’s nothing rude about it.

any one who u really want to be there will. Don’t sweat it.

all i can offer you is our experiences with destination weddings. destination weddings aren’t rude, but it will certainly limit your guest list.
the comment ‘anyone who wants to be there will be there’ is absolute nonsense. the cost of travel, as well as hotels and meals, and wedding gifts is quite expensive and may very well be out of reach for some people, in fact for many people. especially if they have children that will either travel with them or require nannies, etc. while mother and father attend the wedding. so while they may desperately want to be at your wedding they won’t make it. they aren’t being rude, they just can’t afford to spend the money in that area.
we can not afford to travel to france this year for our niece’s wedding and it is very upsetting to know we will miss this event. we aren’t the only ones that won’t be able to attend. do i wish she would have considered this fact? yes, but i couldn’t say she was being rude. she is following her dream and doing what she wants to do.
we will give her a gift and our warmest wishes and the day of her wedding my hubby and i will have a drink at home in their honor. much the same as we did when other friends and family chose to have their weddings in hawaii, the carribean, n.z., and the u.s.a. its their dream day and presumably it only happens once so why would anyone rain on their parade?
wishing you much happiness!

I don’t think it’s rude. It would be rude if you were demanding people to come and pay for their flights, accommodation, etc. but it sounds like you are giving them the choice. Some people may feel obligated to come so I think it’s good that you’re letting them know that it is ok if they choose to come or not. I wouldn’t worry about it.

I also like the above person’s suggestion of putting on the invite that you do not expect gifts- as people will be spending a lot to come to the wedding.

I think some people get offended if they really want to go to the wedding but can’t afford to go. I had a friend who had a destination wedding (1st wedding for both) and her parents could afford to go and the groom’s parents couldn’t. The grooms parents were really upset that they chose a destination wedding because they couldn’t attend and felt that they were missing out while the bride’s parents got to be involved in all of the planning and everything. In this case I can see the groom’s parents perspective but in general I don’t think destination weddings are rude. I quite like the idea!

It’s not rude. People that are complaining are rude. And how dare they!! What right have they to condemn your special day?
Have your destination wedding. Enjoy it, and I am sure the people who matter most, will be there to share it with you. Anyone who doesnt come, doesnt deserve the wonderful time you guys will have.
Good luck and congratulations.

what? people complain about anything! and if it wasn’t that, believe me, someone would find something else to moan about.

on the other hand some people who really might want to be there wont be able to afford it, maybe there is some way of making it up to them. like having a celebration when you come back, sharing all the photos and stories etc

People think it is rude because it usually is very expensive for any of your guests to be able to attend. Also, where your wedding is may not be their ideal way to spend their preciously-earned vacation time and money.
Personally, I only think it is rude if you really expect most people to show up and are mean to them if they decline.

it sort of forces people to take a vacation, when maybe they had other plans this year. in addition to a gift and probably a new outfit for your wedding, now they have to pay for airfare, hotel, meals, kennel for the dog, someone to watch the kids, etc etc etc.

I have no idea why anyone would say that. An invitation is just that, an invitiation. It does not come with a loaded gun that is held to anyone’s head, so people are free to decline if they choose. If anyone is rude, it’s the ones who say you are being rude for coming up with the idea and “forcing” everyone to attend. Because you are straying from the traditional cookie cutter wedding and doing your own thing, you are going to get flak no matter what you decide to do.