Comments on: Destination weddings are rude?

By: winter_spice78

winter_spice78 — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 09:54:33 +0000

I have no idea why anyone would say that. An invitation is just that, an invitiation. It does not come with a loaded gun that is held to anyone’s head, so people are free to decline if they choose. If anyone is rude, it’s the ones who say you are being rude for coming up with the idea and “forcing” everyone to attend. Because you are straying from the traditional cookie cutter wedding and doing your own thing, you are going to get flak no matter what you decide to do.

By: Crystal_Cutter

Crystal_Cutter — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 17:29:02 +0000

i personally dont think its rude, id love to have one!!! and may still. lots of our family and friends will have to travel for the wedding anyway 9and this is very very common in this day and age) so why is it rude to ask them to mearly travel to another place and get a great holiday out of it

By: D4Pres2012

D4Pres2012 — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 13:19:59 +0000

it sort of forces people to take a vacation, when maybe they had other plans this year. in addition to a gift and probably a new outfit for your wedding, now they have to pay for airfare, hotel, meals, kennel for the dog, someone to watch the kids, etc etc etc.

By: Jenny

Jenny — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 14:59:13 +0000

It is not rude. I would recommend a reception party at your house or a friend’s house so those who can’t make the wedding can wish you well. I think those that are saying its rude are just disappointed that they can’t be there. I think you’ve got a very good reason for doing something different (2nd wedding and all).

What I would do is contact a travel agent to assist you and get you a very very good deal on package pricing to make it more affordable for your guests to go. My friend did this, and she got an awesome deal in Playa Del Carmen.

By: nova_queen_28

nova_queen_28 — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 11:03:22 +0000

People think it is rude because it usually is very expensive for any of your guests to be able to attend. Also, where your wedding is may not be their ideal way to spend their preciously-earned vacation time and money.
Personally, I only think it is rude if you really expect most people to show up and are mean to them if they decline.

By: Mrs.Sherman 10-3-08

Mrs.Sherman 10-3-08 — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 21:00:22 +0000

Honestly, I dont think they are rude unless the person having the wedding is rude! Some people have destination weddings and they give guests -plenty- of time to save money for the trip and all of that good stuff. then there’s some people who expect EVERYONE to show up, regardless of thier financial situation! They think “well, I can go, why cant they! They can stop paying bills and eating for a few weeks, cant they?” To be truthful, you should probably just invite those who are closest to you. try to find really good deals on rooms so its not too expensive. Book soon so you can get a good price on the flights. Like I said, give them -plenty- of time to save money because some people might be pretty tight on cash. Give them all of the info they need to book the place and be there to help them out along the way. Most importantly, if someone cant attend because its just too expensive and they cant take off work, do not be offended, try to be understanding. Ive heard a LOT of brides who think that since they invited people, they -will- show up and they just dont realize how hard it is for people to travel!

By: first timer

first timer — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 22:58:40 +0000

what? people complain about anything! and if it wasn’t that, believe me, someone would find something else to moan about.

on the other hand some people who really might want to be there wont be able to afford it, maybe there is some way of making it up to them. like having a celebration when you come back, sharing all the photos and stories etc

By: ptesinge

ptesinge — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 14:45:44 +0000

It’s only possibly rude in two scenarios.

1) If you expect that everyone has to be there. A destination wedding to me says “we’d love you to be there. You’re invited cause you mean a lot to us. But if you can’t, then we totally understand.”

2) From the perspective of whomever has told you it’s rude. Then it’s only “rude” because that person expects YOUR wedding to be about THEM. But then they are the rude ones, not you.

By: bluegirl6

bluegirl6 — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 12:03:14 +0000

It’s not rude. People that are complaining are rude. And how dare they!! What right have they to condemn your special day?
Have your destination wedding. Enjoy it, and I am sure the people who matter most, will be there to share it with you. Anyone who doesnt come, doesnt deserve the wonderful time you guys will have.
Good luck and congratulations.

By: Magenta T

Magenta T — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 20:37:49 +0000

It is not rude. However just understand that not everyone will be able to attend a destination wedding. It just depends on what you want on that day. For me, a wedding is a celebration and I would prefer to be surrounded by my friends and family. So personally I would pick a local venue over an exotic one. But no, there is absolutely nothing wrong with a destination wedding.